Life coach/author/inspirational speaker Sallie Felton co-hosts talk radio show Light at the End of the Tunnel with her husband Conway, in which they are advocates for those suffering from depression.
This is Sallie's final post in her 3-part weekly series exclusively for Spirited Woman on “Moving Out of Your Comfort Zone.”
“YOU NEVER HEAR ME, THAT’S NOT WHAT I SAID!” What brings out the Spirit in you? Does your back straighten, do you wince, do you retreat or strike back?
I don’t know about you, but when I wonder if what I said is what the other person hears. Tricky communications come in many forms: passive and aggressive, just to name two.
Let’s take the passive communicator. You’re in a relationship, the plan is to go out and celebrate your birthday. The conversation ensues about the time you’re to meet; he’s thrilled he’s made all the arrangements.
He: “If you can make it here by 8:15 this evening that would be great.”
When she arrives at 8:35pm looking “hot," he’s on the phone canceling the reservation. “What are you doing!” She screams, puzzled AND confused at over hearing his conversation with the hostess.
Now there’s more than meets the eye with this scenario. First, she has a history of always being late, his patience is wearing thin and he’s at his breaking point. He felt he’d arranged a wonderful evening for her only to have her “appear” to not make it a priority by being there on time. They bantered.
He: “I asked you to be here by 8:15.”
She: “No, you asked if I could make it by 8:15. I heard it as a 50/50, I could be there or not.”