This is her final post in her three-part series exclusively for Spirited Woman. Thanks Pamelah.
When is another person’s comments worth analyzing or "taking in?" When is it of value for you to consider what they are saying?
Your capacity to discern what is your truth and what isn’t, reflected through another person’s comments, is a very big step on the path to radical self-love. I know that when I hear a truth from somebody via compliment or acknowledgement, and it resonates with me, I choose to believe what they are saying. It feels good. It’s a match for both of us.
When I don’t take in what another says, it’s not a match. That’s my radical self-love speaking to me. My choice, on my journey is choosing to take in what another shares IF it resonates. That part is about me!
For example, recently my dear friend, Baeth, told me that she sees me as a very loving, “fairy godmother” magical person. I’m stepping into it. I can see WHY she sees that in me and I understand the magical person part well as well as the loving expression.
The ‘fairy godmother’ image is something I’m pondering – what about that feels true for me and where do I not align? Could I align? Would that feel good and be true for me?
Questions for you:
1. Can you imagine that everything another says about you isn’t about you?
2. When you compliment another and he or she doesn’t take it in, do you know that the other person’s response isn’t about you?
3. Does it make sense that when somebody shares something with you, your reception of it is your choice?
4. When something is shared with you that feels true to you, can you tell the truth to yourself?
5. When something is shared with you that doesn’t feel true, can you trust that it’s not about you?
That’s not always easy. When my mother says something to me, I have to sometimes "work extra hard" to not accept it as MY truth. It could be hers. It’s motivated by her beliefs, it’s her perspective.
Pay attention. It’s never about you, but when could it serve you to listen to another’s perspective? Your choice. Always.
Pamelah Landers, a leading hand analyst and author, specializing in relationship success provides profound insights about your Life Purpose based on your never-changing fingerprints. She has read over 20,000 in her career helping people claim and live what they were born to do. Featured frequently on radio, Pamelah is able to help listeners - in a short amount of time - to identify their style of expressing love based on the Heart Lines in their hands. Pamela is featured in the Spirited Woman 2012 Directory: Resources for an Inspired Life.