Author Donna Henes completes her four week series of "Rituals for the Soul: How to Treat Your Self Like a Queen" for Spirited Woman.
These exercises in Self-appreciation and devotion are not meant to seal yourself off from others forever, or to replace any current or future relationships, but to make sure that you do not get involved for the wrong reasons — out of fear or desperation.
You will emerge from these Self-love exercises with the secure knowledge that you are your own best lover. And when and if you choose, you are able to share that love with someone special, who will understand just how precious it is and return it in kind.
An affair with your Self enables you to know, own and honor yourself as a unique and individual entity. To admit your abilities and limitations, your talents and truculence on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual planes, and love your Self unconditionally with compassion and no judgment attached.Get to know your Self
Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, your fears and fantasies.
Spend some quality time alone together — just you, yourself and you.
Turn off the computer, the phone, the fax, and the TV.
Put on your favorite music, or simply savor the silence.
Entertain a program of non-directed Self-discovery.
Stare out the window or into a candle flame or a mirror.
Clear your mind of inner chatter and let it wander where it will.
Take interest in your Self
Engage in projects of Self-expression in order to reconnect with your higher nature and your inner best Self.
Do an exercise tape.
Go for a run, walk, swim, or bike ride.
Read your Tarot cards. Consult the I Ching. Do yoga.
Meditate. Drum, chant, dance.
Write in your journal.
Transcribe your dreams.
Create an altar.
Paint a picture or your walls.
Sing silly songs.
Have a good cry.
Pound on pillows and scream.
Laugh out loud.