Recently a dear friend and colleague asked me to speak to an executive group she facilitates. Because she is so helpful to me, I was delighted to help Laura out for a change. Since Laura was the contact, she handled all the logistical details which, normally, would be no problem. Unfortunately, Laura was doing everything six states away while dealing with a parent in the hospital. She struggled to focus but did manage to pull the meeting off without a hitch.
Later, Laura sent a note to apologize for not being “present.” She said she went home after our meeting and had quite the meltdown – and immediately felt better!
Isn’t that so often the case? We are so scheduled, committed, crazed or hyper-focused that we forget how to release our anxieties and stresses. One day, we just can’t hold them in any longer and explode. Then, relieved of these pressures, we find release.
In his book, 7 Lessons for Leading in Crisis, author Bill George notes that “Crisis may be your defining moment” and it should never be wasted. Think about that – how can crisis help you breakthrough instead breakdown?
A crisis or breakdown can really help you identify top priorities.In Laura’s case, she and her brother were able to put aside their differences to help their father recuperate. And, after the meltdown, she hired part-time help to assist in running her business. Now she feels empowered to spend time on building her business and check on her father, instead of trying to do everything by herself.
Think about your last breakdown or crisis – what can that experience tell you if you listen objectively? Do you need to speak up to ask for what you want or need? Do you need to say no without guilt? Do you need to focus on your on core values instead of comparing yourself to others?
The next time you feel a crisis coming on, take a moment to consider…”How can I make this a defining moment to breakthrough, not breakdown?”