So when two of my dear friends lost loved ones over the last few days, it caused me to pause and think. Both deaths were not unexpected and both individuals lived long and productive lives. While their passing was definitely a blessing, it was bittersweet for those left behind.
When I consider the next stage of phase of my life, or after life, I always think of my dear departed father in law, Bob. He’d already had four quadruple bypasses when I met him, so we knew his heart health was challenged. My husband and I saw the end before it came – the overwhelming exhaustion, pallor, loss of appetite – and sure enough, we received word that Bob’s heart was enlarged and his systems failing.
My husband was at his dad’s side when Bob made the final transition. What is so remarkable about Bob’s passing is the peace he portrayed. After being resuscitated once, doctors warned that Bob’s system was too fragile to undergo another rescue. They recommended letting nature take its due course.
Bob was surprisingly okay with this. He told my husband not to worry; he had faith in where he would “end up” and to let him go when the time came. That time came all too quickly. 24 hours later, as a second heart attack occurred, Bob sat on his bed, smiled, and told his family, “Here I go…”
After almost 10 years, this story still makes me cry – the sheer beauty of Bob’s faith and calm as he faced the greatest unknown is inspiring. As I reflect on the holiness of this week, I wonder if I will have the courage to let go of this life when my time comes, to embrace the unknown with hope and promise. Most of all, I wonder if I have done enough to enrich this world and the lives of my loved ones.
And so, as this week progresses, may you find peace and blessing in the comfort of your family, friends and loved ones. We all make the final transition sooner or later – the key is to trust Spirit to take us where we need to go...