Have you ever heard the saying “What you resist, persists,” attributed to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Yung?
I find this principal simple to understand, but very difficult to integrate into my everyday way of being. The concept, as I understand it, is trying to tell you that anything that you don’t want in your life will continue to occur as long as you are putting your attention on it. So, if you are in any type of challenge - financial problems, heartbreak, illness, etc--- the more you dwell on it, talk about it or worry about it, the more it continues to be a part of your life. Even if you are saying to yourself, I don’t want this, I want this to stop, I want this to change – you are still strongly engaging the negative, and therefore creating more of it with your thoughts.
There are probably hundreds of books, seminars and tapes out talking about this idea of keeping your focus positively on the outcome of what you do want or need, feeling as if you already have it. But, how do you do it? If you really are worried or feeling stress over an issue in your life, how can you learn to shift your emotions to good feeling ones?
In my constant quest for self-awareness, most of what I’ve learned says to start with changing your thoughts and then your emotions will change. I think this is true, but it is easier said than done. It is actual “work” to constantly shift your mind and your body when you just don’t have those good feelings inside yourself – yet. The key word being –YET!
As spirited women, you probably already know how to live your life with acceptance and hopeful anticipation of what is coming to you. That doesn’t mean you don’t feel bad at times, but I think the message in Carl Yung’s famous saying is to move through it, be o.k. with where you are now instead of fighting against it and, most importantly, focusing with faith that what you do want is on its way to you.
Do you have experience with resisting and persisting in your life? How do you stop resisting?
- Maureen Keyte
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