How does one "Re-Write the Story of Their Life?" Now, that is an interesting question and one many spirited women around the world might be asking themselves. In her three part series, leadership development expert, Andrea Chilcote addresses the answer. In part one she asks, "Which story are you telling?" We welcome Andrea as our guest blogger.
Some time ago I had a conversation with a colleague who was making a difficult choice to leave both a job and a marriage that were consuming her very life force. I observed that this opportunity had been knocking on her door for years, getting louder and more persistent over time, and that perhaps she should answer the call. If not, the door was about to be busted through and the house blown down, as the proverbial wolf did in the Three Little Pigs.
A watershed moment for her, she realized that one cannot proclaim to be self-aware and committed to living purposefully, in integrity, if unwilling to make changes in a life that's not working.
You’ve heard the saying: “The devil you know is better than the devil you don't.” This paradigm is why many people stay in abusive relationships, endure dysfunctional employers, and fail to take the leap toward long-held dreams. Change itself is not what we fear; it's the transition that we endure getting from here to there that's not for the faint of heart. Perhaps so many spirited women are in "transition" because we have the courage of conviction. What is the spark behind that courage? The choice to take full responsibility for one's life.
Any story we tell about difficulty in our lives can be told in two ways. In story one, we tell what happened; a play by play account of wins and losses, who did what and why - from our own point of view. The flaw with this method is just that - our own point of view! If things didn’t turn out as we wished, it's easy to tell a story of what happened to us, what was done to us, and how unfair it all was. Story two is very different. Story two is an account we tell taking full responsibility for everything that happened. It’s a way of examining the beliefs we held, the decisions we made and the actions we took that led to other’s actions or so-called fate stepping in.
Which story is most true? Even though story one is literally true, story two, the story in which we step fully into the great gift of an empowered life, is the only story worth telling.
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