Passionate about making this a better world for ME to live in, I am thrilled to bring what I have learned to a wider audience – with my new book Calm-Ass Leadership: Allowing Calm Assertive Energy to Transform Your Relationships.
What I call “Calm-Ass Leadership” comes from what I have learned through a life of service – as a kibbutz volunteer debriefing people after terrorist attacks in Israel, as one of California’s first women firefighters in the 1980s, as the “Training Goddess” with the fire department I worked with, and of late through The Sisters, a consulting company I created with my sister that delivers programs and workshops to police and fire departments, city governments, and other organizations.
Characteristics of being a Calm-Ass Leader include:
Building trust: I gained
the immediate trust, respect, and partnership of male team members at a
Fire Service Training class. Facing their looks of dismay at having a
woman on their team, I trusted myself to speak and in turn trusted them
“Look, I’m here for the same reason you are: to learn these techniques to take back to my own department. We’re not competing; we’re learning together. I want to be the best, but I want you to be the best, too. Let’s set aside our egos and really learn something today. We can either help each other or fight with each other. What do you say?”
Demonstrating patience and consistency: I overcame a series of obstacles to become one of California’s first women firefighters, including facing a Personnel guy whom I had lied to when I picked up an application pretending that it was for someone else because he wouldn’t have given it to me as a woman.
“I was suddenly faced with the reality and size of my commitment: I wanted to be a fireman. I represented each and every woman taking the steps necessary to realize her dreams. I did not want this huge responsibility, but it seems I had it anyway. This Jewish American Princess was going to make her entrance into the Fire Service in style!”
Having nothing to defend: I have found that all of us are capable of coming together for a common cause that does not include attack or defense. We are capable of setting lofty goals and accomplishing them without putting any energy or attention into sabotaging others with similar goals.
Making your own
choices: I use my experiences to show people they are not alone in
how they feel and what they need or want in life. Every day, every
moment that I was in the Fire Service, I was there for one reason, and
one reason only. To make good on the promise I made as a six-year-old to
help God help the world. So, I became a believer in the good in
mankind. I became a teacher. I became a learner. I became a Calm-Ass
Read Calm-Ass Leadership, and become a Calm-Ass Leader, too!
Wende Wylie was Firefighter of the Year in 1988 and was decorated for heroism in 1989. She now leads Real Life Skills Workshops around the country to police and fire departments, city governments, and other organizations. Her web site is www.RealLifeSkillsWorkshops.com. She can be followed on Twitter, “fanned” on Facebook and emailed at Wende@CalmAssLeadership.com. Or call her at 1-805-835-3731.